Breakups are immensely painful to deal with. I bet that if you've just lost your boyfriend to a breakup, you are feeling hopeless, desperate, and are struggling to understand why it all happened. How you could have stopped it. And most importantly,
what you can do now to get him back.
First: You need to allow the desperation to take its course. Desperation is your worst enemy in trying to reconcile after a breakup. Why? Because it makes you do stupid things like texting nonstop, or checking your messages
obsessively to see if he has written to you or called you. When you find he hasn't, you just feel a thousand times worse.
Avoiding facebook, twitter, IM, and any other social networks he might be on is also important. Just keep away from them - otherwise you'll be setting yourself up for heartbreak, especially when you see him posting pics of him and another girl.
Second, you need to focus on your own needs right now. Allow for the possibility of reconciliation with him later on, but use the no contact rule to make sure you are focused on your own needs and not him, right now.
Simply making this slight shift in focus can hugely help your efforts to get him back. Most people fail at reconciling with an ex because they let desperation and fear take over - and that is the sabotaging factor.
Thirdly, you need to realize that no matter what happens, he is just one guy. Of course you want to get together with him again, but if for some reason it doesn't work out, there will be another guy much more appreciative and happy to have you.
So, yes, you will feel like the breakup is the end of the world. You will feel sad and desperate. I highly advise distractions at this point. Find the things you enjoy most, whether it's reading, writing, playing a sport, playing a certain game, or
just talking to your friends/hanging out with them a bit. Do everything you can to enforce no contact with your ex-boyfriend for a while. Keep him out of your mind as much as possible.
Then when it's time to break no contact and get in touch with him again, you can do so. But make sure you don't do this prematurely, as it could have negative effects; you have to wait a considerable amount of time and ensure that you have taken care of yourself FIRST before getting back in touch with him.
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Wait! Don't call him yet; be sure that you're enforcing the no contact rule correctly and saying the right things to get him back after a breakup.
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