Our hearts can be disfigured. They can be troubled and tormented. Our hearts can be squeezed and distressed emotionally and psychologically to such a degree that finally they begin to whither under the strain. They crack or even break. The experience of having a "Broken Heart" is real.
Losing a loved one, struggling with job woes, or having our lives shattered with a horrible divorce are just some of the catalysts that can create severe trauma to our hearts. The psychotherapist and author, Thomas Moore writes that "at one time or another, most people go through a period of sadness, trial, loss, frustration, or failure that is so disturbing and long-lasting that it can be called a dark night of the soul."
Regrettably, hearts living through swarthiness and turmoil, hearts that are "broken" don't just suffer emotionally. Medical research has understandably shown that deep heartache, sadness, and other painful experiences can cause actual heart disease.
In the 1970's medical researchers from the Mayo Clinic discovered that what we think and feel has a direct bearing on having a healthy heart. In a research study of over 170 people they demonstrated that people suffering with severe grief or overwhelming anger can literally "drop dead" from something called Sudden Cardiac Death. You can indeed die from a "broken heart."
Nonetheless, just as emotional pain and injury can wind us tighter and tighter and finally create heart disease- the troublesome cords that bind us can also be loosened. We can learn to unravel the emotional heartache that is producing illness. We can learn to cure our broken hearts.
One powerful first step for heart healing is to acknowledge that our "dark nights" of broken heartedness can be a path to deeper meaning, perhaps even spiritual awakening. If we tune into this idea that our misfortunes may in fact teach us something about ourselves, something essential to our overall growth as a human being, then some of the painful "sting" of our heart's aching can be raised.